There is wrapping paper everywhere, too many sweets on the counter, and momma is worried, almost to the point of tears. Did we get the right thing? Have we celebrated the season? My kids won’t want to come home when they are an adult if they remember what just happened!
Never fear! Acorn is here with some simple advice about the holidays that will help turn anxiety into connection.
- First, remember that face time is more important than Facebook. Taking pictures and recording the memories is great, but it should be an after-thought. Actually being fully present in the moment and connecting to the family member or friend is the most important part of creating a memorable occasion.
- Second, few people remember the gift they received as much as they remember the conversation or experience they shared. Create memories by playing with the child or talking about meaningful things with others. Share your ups and downs personnally, not through emails or pictures.
- Third, get sleep, eat well, and be relaxed. Maybe something bad will happen or the Yorkshire pudding will fall. But the negative things make events memorable. All those perfect breakfasts my Mom made while I was growing up? No specific memories. That time Dad added 2 Tablespoons of salt instead of 2 Teaspoons of salt to our oatmeal? We all remember that!
Need specific help? Review some of my articles from Christmas pasts.
Maybe there is something in there for you.
Christy is the head cheerleader at Acorn Counseling Education Services. She has been in private practice since 2003 and loves to help clinicians and parents learn more about working with children and families in crisis. Call or email with specific questions! She likes to help.