Step 2 to Tough Talks: Be Clear

Parents in the past have talked about tough talks without being clear. You know the obscure metaphor of the birds and the bees? I’ll bet you have examples right now of metaphors and obscure references adults used to teach you about important topics that still confuse...

Step 1 to Tough Talks: Be Honest

Mom waits nervously in the car. Today is the day she has been planning for ages: the day she has a tough talk with her child about the big family secret. They have a date set up and Mom has planned this out meticulously. She wonders if she has waited too long and how...

DBT Skills: How to Change Your Emotions

If you didn't have the opportunity to read my last blog, I'd suggest checking it out before reading this one. As I mentioned in my discussion of emotional regulation, it is very common for people to come to counseling hoping to control their emotions. However,...

Negotiation: American Pickers vs Fixer Upper

We use negotiation for lots of obvious things--garage sales, jobs, buying large items like cars and homes. However, if you look closely, finding negotiations is easy: from divvying up chores, to where you will spend Christmas this year. This article describes...

DBT Skills: Emotion Regulation

I hear it all the time: "I need to get my emotions under control!" or "How do I stop feeling this way?" At times, it may seem like if you could just control your emotions, most of your problems would be fixed! You try all kinds of methods for doing this: emotional...

DBT Skills: Mindfulness

    How often do  you find yourself on your smart phone, scrolling through Facebook or playing Candy Crush, with no memory of having picked it up or why you felt the need to be on it? Or how often do you realize, in the middle of driving to work, that you have no...

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