“Boys don’t cry. Build a bridge and get over it. It’s a man’s world. Women aren’t as capable as men. If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” Have you ever heard one of these sayings? Maybe you have heard something like these growing up and still wonder if you believe it? Without careful evaluation for truth, our parents, teachers, friends, and cultures’ spoken and unspoken beliefs have turned into our own. These limiting and devaluing beliefs shape our choices of spouse, friends, career, and lifestyle. Realizing these beliefs are not the truth is essential. We have the opportunity to choose new beliefs and in turn create a pattern of growth and freedom.
Where do our beliefs come from?
Our beliefs stem from the way we interpret what is modeled to us and what we hear as we grow up. It is thought-provoking to notice that our beliefs are commonly based more on our own personal perceptions than fact. For instance, I grew up hearing “Pull yourself up by your own bootstraps.” As a child, I personally took this to mean, “It’s wrong to ask for help.” As I went through life, I kept my feelings inside and tried to do things in my own strength. Little did I know that would work only for so long. We all need help and people to come along side us to support us on our journeys. In fact, it’s brave to ask for help.
Another way belief systems are created can be through fear. If we fear abandonment, rejection, or disapproval, we may be afraid to disagree with others. We may not share our voice and in turn risk losing our sense of self and become a people pleaser.
A big part of emotional growth is examining our beliefs in all aspects of life. Are there beliefs that are keeping you stuck? I believe it is possible to heal and let go of what is not working for you and acquire truth that can bring more fulfillment and freedom in your life. If you need help getting unstuck from negative beliefs, give me a call at 940-222-8703 x702 or make an appointment on my online scheduling site: Therapy Appointment Calendar.