How do we know what’s the best answer when it comes to larger life questions such as changing jobs, moving, having children, or many other decisions that are big to each individual? Are there questions that we can ask that may help determine the best answer when there seems like so many good choices? Of course they say that hindsight is 20/20, but when you are in the midst of a decision where there are many good options; how do you know what is the best one for you and your family? Sometimes writing the pros, cons, and costs down doesn’t always give you a clear answer.
Last year I needed to make a decision between two good things and it wasn’t easy. I couldn’t continue doing both things because I realized I would get burnt out. Some questions that helped bring clarity was asking myself where I wanted to invest and spend my energy for the long run? What did I want the outcome to be in 2 years, 5 years, and 10 years down the road? What are my dreams, goals, and what was meaningful to me between these two choices?
Another question I asked is what season was I in? My husband and I have two teenagers and balancing the time to be present and connecting with them, before they went off to college, was valuable to me. I also needed time for self-care which for me included regular exercise, eating healthy, and having down time to relax and have fun.
Of course no one knows with certainty what the best answer always is, but something else that helped was to seek wise counsel from someone that knows you well, whether it be a close friend, spouse, or a counselor. Sometimes an outside perspective can help you see obstacles, costs, and possible outcomes that you may not have considered since you are so involved in the process. If you need help working through choices or in need of a new perspective, give me a call at 940-222-8703 ext 702, or email me at [email protected]. I’d love to help.