Negotiation: American Pickers vs Fixer Upper

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We use negotiation for lots of obvious things–garage sales, jobs, buying large items like cars and homes. However, if you look closely, finding negotiations is easy: from divvying up chores, to where you will spend Christmas this year. This article describes negotiating while maintaining relationships. Positional Negotiation Two of my favorite shows illustrate different styles of […]

DBT Skills: Emotion Regulation

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I hear it all the time: “I need to get my emotions under control!” or “How do I stop feeling this way?” At times, it may seem like if you could just control your emotions, most of your problems would be fixed! You try all kinds of methods for doing this: emotional eating, distracting yourself, […]

DBT Skills: Mindfulness

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    How often do  you find yourself on your smart phone, scrolling through Facebook or playing Candy Crush, with no memory of having picked it up or why you felt the need to be on it? Or how often do you realize, in the middle of driving to work, that you have no memory of […]

A Play Therapist Reviews 4 Fidgets

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Fidgets are all the rage and I’ve caught the bug. So I did what any professional play therapist does and I bought all the toys and played with them. For research, of course! Procedure Ok, if I’m a social scientist [and therapists are], I have to tell you the procedure I used to ‘test’ these […]

Eating and Identity

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“You are what you eat.” I don’t know about you, but I’ve never considered myself to be a plate of chilaquiles and two scoops of ice cream. This old adage that the food you eat becomes you may seem far-fetched when stated so blatantly, but isn’t this what today’s culture asks us to believe about […]

Collaborative Divorce: Limiting the Costs of Divorce

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As a play therapist since 2001 and a private practitioner since 2003, watching divorce from the sidelines has been a large part of my job-both litigious and collaborative divorce. Working with the kids and parents to assist in the transition, I get a close up view of what happens. Much of the inner workings of […]

Compulsive Behavior: Making Sense

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There are times when we do things that just don’t make sense to us. Something happens, and we just find ourselves feeling, thinking, or behaving in ways that we don’t want to. But somehow both the actions and the thoughts and feelings that follow seem involuntary/compulsive. This cycle of acting out and not understanding why […]