New Year: Resolution or Goal-Setting

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It’s 2018, and time to begin the obligatory resolution discussion. With the new year comes hope that things will finally be different. You will finally lose the weight, finally stop smoking, finally do the things you’ve been wanting to do but haven’t. But the reality is that January 1, 2018 is just another day. The […]

Food and Boundaries (Part 2)

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In part one of this two-part blog series on Food and Boundaries, I covered the issues surrounding thinking dichotomously about our food choices and the social tendency to morally label food as either “good” or “bad”. My encouragement was to focus on the true purpose of food while embracing the grey areas of our food […]

Food and Boundaries Part 1

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Is your relationship with food healthy or unhealthy? That may be a difficult question to answer. You may not even realize that you have a relationship with food in the first place, but everyone does, and for most people it is a very complicated one. A good way to evaluate whether your relationships with other […]

Counseling: The First Session

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You’re thinking about going to your first session in counseling, but you can’t seem to get past the fear.  Fear of not knowing what to expect from that first session, much less the sessions that come after that! This fear of the unknown can be a powerful factor. It can deter us from doing or […]

The Paradox of Shame and Vulnerability in Counseling

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So you’ve been thinking about going to counseling, but you’re afraid. You know that you might have to talk about the things you’ve kept hidden, those areas of shame, and willingly expose your vulnerability. I have a decoration with these words displayed in my office: “When I am weak, then I am strong.” Those who […]

Social Media and Comparison

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The way you talk about yourself doesn’t just effect you, especially when it comes to social media. Whether positive or negative, the way you talk about yourself can actually have a significant impact on the way others see and think about themselves. You are modeling and normalizing self-image for those that look up to you, […]

DBT Skills: Communicating Expectations and Needs

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Often, when we need something from someone else, the way we are communicating is the strongest predictor of whether or not we will get it. It doesn’t matter if this is a simple request for a listening ear or a serious plea for someone to acknowledge your needs. In the realm of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, […]

DBT Skills: How to Change Your Emotions

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If you didn’t have the opportunity to read my last blog, I’d suggest checking it out before reading this one. As I mentioned in my discussion of emotional regulation, it is very common for people to come to counseling hoping to control their emotions. However, emotions are not always controllable. But with the skills of […]