DBT Skills: Communicating Expectations and Needs

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Often, when we need something from someone else, the way we are communicating is the strongest predictor of whether or not we will get it. It doesn’t matter if this is a simple request for a listening ear or a serious plea for someone to acknowledge your needs. In the realm of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, […]

DBT Skills: How to Change Your Emotions

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If you didn’t have the opportunity to read my last blog, I’d suggest checking it out before reading this one. As I mentioned in my discussion of emotional regulation, it is very common for people to come to counseling hoping to control their emotions. However, emotions are not always controllable. But with the skills of […]

DBT Skills: Emotion Regulation

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I hear it all the time: “I need to get my emotions under control!” or “How do I stop feeling this way?” At times, it may seem like if you could just control your emotions, most of your problems would be fixed! You try all kinds of methods for doing this: emotional eating, distracting yourself, […]

DBT Skills: Mindfulness

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    How often do  you find yourself on your smart phone, scrolling through Facebook or playing Candy Crush, with no memory of having picked it up or why you felt the need to be on it? Or how often do you realize, in the middle of driving to work, that you have no memory of […]

Eating and Identity

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“You are what you eat.” I don’t know about you, but I’ve never considered myself to be a plate of chilaquiles and two scoops of ice cream. This old adage that the food you eat becomes you may seem far-fetched when stated so blatantly, but isn’t this what today’s culture asks us to believe about […]

When Healthy Eating Becomes an Obsession

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How long has it been since you last saw an advertisement for food or a diet that promised you everything you ever wanted by eliminating an ingredient, a food group, or following a set of rules? I’d say you’re lucky if you can make it more than a day without these messages being communicated to […]

Compulsive Behavior: Making Sense

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There are times when we do things that just don’t make sense to us. Something happens, and we just find ourselves feeling, thinking, or behaving in ways that we don’t want to. But somehow both the actions and the thoughts and feelings that follow seem involuntary/compulsive. This cycle of acting out and not understanding why […]