Have you ever felt scared, anxious, or depressed, but couldn’t identify what was going on that would cause you to feel that way? Some clients come into counseling not being able to put a finger on why they feel the way they do since everything seems to be going well. I’ve listened to many people say, “I’ve got a good family, good job, so I just don’t understand why I’m feeling this way.” After listening to their history, most often it’s become clearer as to why they feel the way they do. Usually they have had an experience that created a negative belief about themselves; and it still is holding its power over them. Here are some practical ways you can begin to uncover the root cause of a negative belief.
One way to begin to uncover the root cause of a negative belief is to get curious about it. For example, if you feel depressed, ask yourself what you believe? Usually it feels something along the lines of I’m not good enough, I am powerless, worthless, or unsafe. Be inquisitive and ask yourself when in your past have you felt that way before? What was happening in your world during that time? Were you going through something difficult? Did you not feel supported during that stressful event? This is usually one of the most beneficial exercises we can engage in for discovering the root causes of negative beliefs.
Trying to figure this all out on your own can be difficult. Seeing a therapist can help by giving you space to talk about your past, identify triggers, and then discovering the root causes. Another great tool that can be useful in this process is EMDR. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) allows for old memories and negative beliefs to be identified and worked through. EMDR helps separate our negative beliefs and emotions from the situation and assists in the healing process.
If you are feeling stuck, or have repeating thoughts and feelings that you’d like to move through, please give me a call at 940-222-8703 x 702. As an EMDR trained therapist, I look forward to journeying alongside you to break through barriers and have a more fulfilling life.